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I am going on 8 weeks. Very nervous and scared, I miscarried the first time, around 8 weeks. I really want this to be a healthy full term pregnancy! Im so sick every day, feelings of throwing up. Very emotional. I hope the 2nd trimester I will feel better

Jess Lynn

Last friday my doctor called me with the results of my ultra sound. I was 12 weeks and 2 days, and it didn't look good for the baby. She told me to be prepared to have a miscarriage over the weekend. My babies heart beat was only at 99 beats per minute, and in most cases it eventually just stops beating. I was totally devastated, an emotional wreck. I called my husband at work and told him to come and get. I am very thankful for him b/c he helped me through this and now I am at 13 weeks and 2 days and nothing has happened yet, I even felt butterflies in my tummy this morning and that is supposed to be a sign of feeling your baby move. I go for an ultra sound tomorrow to see if my baby's heartrate has improved or not. I feel totally confident but very scared at the same time!!!

Cheryl

I am 12 weeks pregnant today. I had invitro fertilization and am having twins. I have a lot of fears and anxieties as I have gone through so much to get here. At six and a half weeks I had a lot of bleeding and had to go to the hospital. I was so scared. After much praying the doctor told me the babies were fine and that bleeding happens to 1 out of 5 pregnant women during the first couple of months. I did get to see both heartbeats that day which made me feel a lot better. Since then, I have been fine except for extreme heart burn and Nausea. I am showing already and have gained about 6 lbs. I have my next ultra sound in a week (13 weeks)My husband is deployed in the middle east and wont be here for it so I am on my own. I just pray that everything is great.

L

I am 9 weeks and constantly worrying about having a miscarriage. Whenever I get a twinge it makes me panic but I keep on remnding myself that lots of women have perfectly normal pregnancies. I am going for my first checkup in 3 weeks and I can't wait to be able to tell everyone!

I have been so sick for ten weeks now even worse at night time, its getting better now I'm nearly 12 weeks now I'm worried that I'm not sick anymore is everything ok?

Natalie

I've miscarried 3 times and have a 3yr old son im 11 weeks 5 days pregnant and so scared it will happen agian im getting a bit of pain but the doctor says my baby is ok

I am 11-week pregnanct with 2nd child. I am stressed out b/c severe nausea and vomitting. On an average, I throw up 5-6 time/day. I felt nauseatic and tired constantly. What makes it worse is that this pregnancy refreshed my memory of the 1st pregnancy, when I threw up 6-8 times /day for 60 days. Such a nightmare that I think no one should suffer. My 1st baby was healthy and cute, which healed all the pain I had during pregnancy. Every time I read others' story about pregnancy sickness, I will be so emotional that I burst into tears. But I know that I have to pass pass the hard time, and I can, to await a new life, a darling.

Cindy

when first finding out I was pregnant it was an immense sense of blind panic - having wanted to be pregnant, this was not the first emotion I expected to feel! I think it took about 2-3 weeks until the fear subsided and excitement took hold. My husband has been incredably supportive and has ensured that I do not block him out of how I am feeling, as the waves of panic begin - I now air my thoughts until we come up with a plan and then they are not so scary. We have told parents at 6 weeks but not friends yet. I want to wait until the first scan, apart from sore breasts and tiredness i have felt no different - lucky me I know!! but it also means that it doesn't feel too real - I think seeing our baby on the scan will help with this though, I just hope everything is ok as with each day I feel the bond growing stronger between me and our baby.

I am 12 weeks pregnant with my fourth child. I never worried with the others but this time just cannot stop. We told the other children last week because I could no longer hide being sickbt now I am worrying I am going to lose the baby and hurt the other children. I always thought that after twelve weeks that things would be OK but after our friend list her baby at 20 weeks I'm not so sure of anything anymore. Its going to be a long 28 weeks.

I'm just over 6 weeks pregnant and I'm so happy, just very worried about miscarriage because its so common these days. I don't smoke or drink and im eating very healthy. Is there anything else I can do to prevent it?

Kerry

Hi all, I`m about 11wks pregnant now. I found my self pregnant at about 3 weeks and after having a home pregnancy test I rushed to the local surgery for having my HCG done. My GP asked me that its quite early to have a pregnancy test as most of the pregnany here fail during 5-6 weeks so she`ll recomend the test by 5th or 6th week ,but I insisted to have it done right then (no doubt this conversation lead me to the fear of loosing my baby during the upcoming weeks).Then on next visit I was told that my report was positive and I dont need to visit until I`m 11/12weeks pregnant and I must book an appointment with the midwife for the 3rd visit.

This pannel is really a relief because its good to know about others and to share your own experience, my prayers are there for all the mothers to be ....and I expect the same from you all.

Fariha

I just found out I was pregnant for the first time and I'm terrified!! I've been a diabetic for 16 years and am not in very good control. After reading all the info I could find I'm even more terrified, plus I don't feel pregnant so my motivation to be more strict with my diabetes is lacking...hopefully this will chage.

Rhiannon

This is my first pregnacy and all I do is worry if I am doing everything ok. I have no one to talk to about going through this. I am 6 weeks today and I'm loving it. I just would like to have someone to talk to.

Taryn

Well, having desperately wanted a baby, I am now pregnant at the ripe old age of 38. My partner and I decided to try sooner rather than later due to my age, and it happened sooner rather than later ie the 2nd time we tried. Since being pregnant, I have questioned everything - was it too soon (we have not been together for long), do I really want kids with him etc etc - somehow, my deepest wish has turned to a whirlwind of questions in my head -I guess (and hope) it's the hormones and that it will pass!

I am about 6-8 weeks gone now and I was this far gone when I had my last miscarridge its really scary to think that it might happen again as last time it was very painful I was only 17 then and I'm now 22 my boyfriend is really supportive and trying his best to help me cope but I still feel alone on this. im hopeing that things will be ok got my doctors appointment soon who will then refer me to a midwife to arrange my first scan I just hope everything is going to be ok.

Claire

The first 12 weeks for my husband and I are have been a total worry. I have been bleeding slightly from week 7 until now, I have had scans every few weeks to check all is well, the last scan at 9 weeks and baby was fine with good heartbeat. We have next scan in 4 days time I will be 13 weeks. The doctor has said I have a cervical erosion and this can cause the bleeding, however it does not stop the trips to the loo to check if I am still bleeding or not!! and the worry that this time it may not be the erosion... I wish everyone well with their pregnancies. Hopefully all will be well next week.

Eva